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It seems Dr. Downing was on to something. Dr. Downing is an international consultant in the field of student strategies dealing with success. He taught us that there are two types of people. The first type is creators which are very creative in making their own lives. Creators do not automatically give up. Even if there is not a way, they will find one. Creators are usually problem solvers and leaders. The other type is the victim, which do not feel they are in charge of their lives. Victims let the little things affect them and let everything go downhill from there. They usually make an excuse for everything. They blame others for their downfall, and nothing is not their fault. What I learned from this was that where there is a will there is a way, so I will stop trying to make an excuse for everything because it could be a lot worse.

 

        There are two different ways in life or a lot would say mindsets. They are the creators and victims. A professor had two students that didn’t have a book in the class. So, the professor gave them some time to get the books for the class. The first student came back to the class empty handed. When the teacher asked why, the student replied with a mindset we like to call a victim. The student gave up soon as she went to the book store and found out there wasn’t any left. Dr. Downing says “A victim response seeks to find blame for a negative situation; their response is unhelpful towards their goals” (Downing). The second student had her book. When the professor asked how the second student obtained it, the reply was with a Creator’s mindset. The Creator basically doesn’t believe in giving up. Instead of the student giving up after the bookstore was sold out she went other places and finally found the book. Dr. Downing says “Creators are more likely to reach their goals and be successful in life”. When Professor. Mirman posted this, he wanted people to get a feel and understand where the doctor was coming from through example.

            I had a Victim moment in my life. My story is pretty simple. I had a girlfriend which I really loved. I met Margaret at my first job in 2009 which was at the store called Target. As the time progressed, we became really close, but I could not stop cheating. I told myself if this event happens, I would stop, but then the event would happen, and I would just make up the same excuse over and over again. After a while I started blaming her for my cheating ways. The situation was a never ending story that ended up in heartbreak. I have matured since then, but the hardest thing is trying not to act like the Victim. The role is so easy to play, and that’s why so many play it.

            As we know the Victim is easy to play, but there is no greater feeling than playing the Creator. My friend Josh used to mess with everyone in the 757 area. Later Josh lost someone he loved due to him cheating. Soon as he lost that special someone, he promised to slow down and never run a game on a female again. One day his friend called him to check up on him. She told him to come by, and he said no at first, but he never really went out so he changed his mind. Josh had sex with a random girl that his friend just introduced to him. The girl found out she was pregnant and based off of the situation Josh wanted to take care of it by getting an abortion. Close friends, including me and his dad knew about this. To bring a baby into the world with a complete stranger was not even sane. So Josh had a talk with his dad and he basically told him to wait to get a DNA test since she didn’t want to have an abortion. He felt his life crumbling, but then he realized that the baby was innocent if brought into this world. So he went from “I don’t care if it’s my baby or not” to “If it’s my baby, I will be the best dad ever”. He basically showed that it was a way around anything, just don’t give up because if you do, what are you really living for?

            What I learned from Mirman and Downing is that we all have choices in life. I want to be Creative and I strive for it, but I do have Victim tendencies. I learn everyday how to be more Creative. The learning process is only beginning, just because you mess up it doesn’t mean the end of the world. Keep trying over and over, I bet you succeed.